It has been rightly said, that “your first guru/teacher/guide are your parents”. What you learn from your birth from your parents, elders at home is what reflects in your day-to-day routine conduct with others.I still remember as a child, even when I had not even started walking and speaking properly, my parents used to educate and teach us to say Pranaam/Namaste or to touch the feet of elders in the family or in our colony or of anyone visiting us.I saw my parents wishing my grandfather both early in the morning and before going to bed. Later, as I grew up, I still recollect that my grandfather after his morning routine and breakfast would sit in the verandah of the house, facing the main road. Every passer-by whether known or unknown used to wish him respectfully and in response, he would bless them saying, ‘Aashirwaad or khush raho.’This culture was the foundation of our upbringing and inculcated humility as well as consideration in us for all human life.Unfortunately, today these teachings from our parents/ grandparents/elders have got lost in contemporary times. Though the present generation has evolved as a highly educated society, they are lacking in the basic skills of courtesy, respect, humility and concern for each other.I do observe that the younger generation and children of senior classes are only learning materialistic education. This again is the reflection of the teachings at home. The concern is that if at home our own parents are not behaving with respect and not giving due regard to the elders in the family in front of children, then how will they imbibe these values. Even the education system today is somewhat to be blamed as there is no teaching of social ethics in the best of schools.There is an increasing level of social behavioural abnormalities with a lack of courtesy and desirable mannerisms. The materialistic approach has ushered in an era of self-centred existentialism with total disregard for others. Unfortunately, these weeds are growing stronger every day as they penetrate their roots deeper and deeper in our society.I stay in a society with an amalgamation of senior citizens, middle-aged and young folk. In our routine interaction/meetings. we commonly exchange simple pleasantries and courtesies, but there are invariably some members who take this behaviour as one’s weakness. Their attitude reeks of arrogance and simple courtesies are never reciprocated. Many times the children cross the seniors without bothering to wish them or giving them right of way. It makes one question their upbringing and the singular lack of grooming.Recently, on returning from my office in my car, I noticed that one of the society residents, a neighbour and an acquaintance, was getting some work done in his car. The scooter of the mechanic was parked in such a manner that I didn’t get enough space to reverse my car and park it in my parking slot. I assumed that on seeing me the individual would ask the mechanic to remove his scooter so that I could conveniently reverse my car and park it. To my surprise, he ignored me and remained busy in getting the car repaired from the mechanic. I suppressed my annoyance and waited calmly. I had to keep waiting for the next ten minutes. Once the mechanic left, he too moved away without any regret or apology for the inconvenience caused.What will such parents pass on to their children, I wonder. We cannot really blame the youth if we elders cannot teach them by example. After all, the youth emulates the example which is held out to them.